
The ego, that good old part of us that helps us and can completely ruin us. The American Heritage Dictionary says that Ego is defined as:
(noun)
The self, especially as distinct from the world and other selves.
In psychoanalysis, the division of the psyche that is conscious, most immediately controls thought and behavior, and is most in touch with external reality.
An exaggerated sense of self-importance; conceit.
For this blog post, let’s focus on the third component of the definition. When we operate with an exaggerated sense of self-importance known as conceit, we are in great danger. Now what happens when this is combined with an unchecked bank account or high level of responsibility? What happens when this sense of self runs riot and harms other people?
Unfortunately I have sent his happen more times than I can count. For me, when I was in my great alcoholic downfall this was my modus operandi. I did so much harm, blamed everyone else for my failures, would not look at my actions and couldn’t be bothered to hear any support or suggestions from others. In my recovery I spend a great deal of time trying to settle my ego and tear it apart. I constantly laugh at my ego. I name it and poke fun at it. So far, it has been working.
Now, I am an observer of many things on this planet. I observe the weather, peoples behavior, my own experiences, and all things we refer to as art. One thing that I see happening especially for white men in positions of power is that they cannot get their egos to slow down. Er go, non-sense. One of my closest friends and mentors Lily said to me one day, Tiffany - you cannot make sense out of non-sense. She is the bearer of the bad news and the good news. The non-sense will continue to be non-sense, the good news, it’s out of my control, and therefore deserves none of my time or attention.
Where there is ego er go there is non-sense. This is the simplest math equation I know.
Now, you may ask where is the more love not less action in this post? Great question! More love, not less - means in this case, that I love myself and protect my time. I accept those who have no interest in ego management and I move away from them. If I have mentioned it and offered a solution and the nonsense remains, then I move on having done no harm. I work with the message not with the mess, therefore, non-sense can go on ahead acting out, I can go be in my peace.
Love and hugs to you all,
Tiffany
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