Carlton University says there are two types of motivation. Internal and external.
Motivation can come from within: This is when your reasons for changing are not for any reward or outside gain but instead for the sake of your own happiness and well-being.
Motivation can come from the outside: This is when you want to change to get some kind of reward or outcome. For example, participating in treatment to help you get parole or get off probation. Other people, especially family and loved ones, can also affect your desire to change, for example, when your reasons for changing are to make other people happy.
This is called a lot of different things: intrinsic versus extrinsic; internal versus external; my interest or their interests/ demands; the life I want versus the life they say I should....you get the idea.
All of us need to know why we do things or do not do things. This happens when we are clear about our purpose. My purpose is supporting people be their authentic selves. This happens when I support business development or personal therapy. It happens in all my friendship and especially with my wife.
What is your purpose?
Here are some questions to help you get to your purpose?
Figure out what you care about, what makes your heart happy?\
What matters most to you?
What do you think I’m particularly good at?
What do you think I really enjoy?
How do you think I’ll leave my mark on the world?
Imagine your best self. What are you doing? What is important to you? What do you really care about, and why?
How are you cultivating gratitude and awe?
Who do you admire? looks up to?
How are your boundaries?
Here are some things to think about as you begin to set boundaries.
When we are wiling to take some risks and begin actively doing so, we will enhance the quality of our lives.
We have deprived ourselves too long. There is no need to do that anymore, no need. If it feels good, and the consequences are self-loving and not self-defeating do it!
There are positive aspects to boundary setting. We learn to listen to our selves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good.
Those who get angry when you set a boundary are the ones you need to set boundaries for.
You motivation and purpose are directly related to your ability know yourself and set boundaries. No, is a complete sentence.
So, start saying no, figure out what makes you happy, and gives you purpose so you can live your path!!!!!!!
In respect and gratitude to all of you,
Tiffany
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