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Writer's pictureTiffany Wynn

The Keys to the Kingdom

What if I told you everything you have ever wanted in already available to you, you just have to accept it? I thought for years that I had great self talk, could manifest things, and things were good. It turns out, until I knew what some of my true core beliefs were I could not begin to image my life in its full potential.

Now, I don't really want a kingdom or a castle, that's different story, but I do want peace of mind and joy.


So, how do we get peace of mind? What is it any way? Well, the Calm app says that peace of mind is NOT the space in between stress. It is about equanimity. Equanimity is generally a balanced place that one stays all the time regardless fall of the outside stuff that can make us feel very off balance.


How do we get EQUANIMITY?

  1. Meditation, not the in the class, chanting kind (although that does work really well), the kind where you're going about your day and focusing on your breathing.

  2. Be present. This is an interesting one. I hear a lot of people say be present, stay here, be here now. It's all true and it does kinda work like that. BUT, it also works when you say outlaid to yourself I am rushing, I am walking, I am worrying, I am breathing. You can also do things like fully pay attention to how you brush your teeth, wash your hands or show up in person to talk with a friend. Are you able to listen and fully hear the other person and leave your phone alone?

  3. Positive mindset. Carol Dweck wrote Mindset, she's just the best. Herre's the short version. When ever you have a black and white thinking moment you are being rigid and negative. There are always more than two answers. Another way to look at this is to find gratitude in any situation.

  4. Love yourself! Yikes, that's hard, I know. AND it might be one of the more important suggestions. Love yourself is not selfies and makeovers. It is getting to know who you are- really. Are you covered in the expectations and beliefs of others or are you seeing who you are all the way sown to your core? Love that part. Love the part that is still there after you sift through everyone else stuff that seems to be you (it's not).

  5. Self care. No, not bubble baths and chocolate. More like schedule half a day for you to sit and read, rest whenever your body says rest, eat the food that makes you feel better.



  1. Visualize a relaxing place. Close your eyes and see a beautiful calm space that you love to be in. Spend time walking around in your thought. Feel the breeze. Your brain needs a break, so take it somewhere nice.

  2. Have better breathing. Breathe in and hold it, breathe out and hold it. Do it 3, or 5, or 7 or 10 times. Your nervous system will thank you.

  3. Spend time in nature. This can be hard for folks who don't live near the woods. However, even in a city you can find a 2x3ft swath of grass to put your feet in or a park to sit in. This kind of "eco" or "nature therapy" gets rid of negative ions, cleanses all kinds of stuff and if you're like me, gets your eyes off of a screen for a few minutes.

  4. Practice gratitude. This is revolutionary and so cool. If I write down ten things I'm grateful for every morning I'm in such better mental shape. It can be that I have running water, a place to sleep, clean sheets, hot tea.....keep it basic. I have food. You will feel better I promise.



Now, Joy...this is really fun!

  1. Move your body. At your level move a bit, wake that heart up. You'll be surprised at how much joy that brings.

  2. Do something for others and maybe don't tell them.

  3. Connect to your spiritual world, whatever that means to you.

  4. Do something new. You're not going to be good at it, do it anyway.

  5. Give yourself permission to have pleasure. Especially when you're not feeling so hot.

  6. Look for the good all around you. When you look for it you see it.



There are so many ways to get the keys to the kingdom, and now that you have them are you going to unlock the door and go inside? Try three of these things in the next week and tell me how it went? What did you notice about yourself, your mood, peoples reactions to you?


In love and respect,

Tiffany



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