I am supporting several leaders in their "humaning" development. I say this instead of professional development because the issue is not content or technical skill-oriented it is emotional intelligence and relationships.
This humaning thing is critical to our collective survival and well-being. The world is in a crisis of relationship. Let's explore this concept.
How many times have you been in a store and someone bumped into you and didn't notice? I am finding it more and more difficult to be around people in public because people seem to be fairly oblivious to other humans around them. There also seems to be a general sense of entitlement and expectation that what any general person wants is more important than everyone else. Having said that, I also see that there is a lot of gentleness and respect. It's very confusing. I have to admit that I try to stay grounded and kind. However, sometimes the angry part of me flares up and I want to argue with some man at a store who believes his needs are more important than everyone else.
Crisis of relationship. Think about dysfunctional family experiences - those relationships end up stressed. Then the relationships turn into toxic relationships - those toxic relationships then come into the community...then it's on a national level and an international level and we are not holding each other accountable for our public behaviors. I didn't know that what I learned about relationships in my family of origin was not always useful in other settings. It took a long time for me to understand that I needed to alter my behaviors, my thinking, and my expectations of others.
Relationships do not need to be in crisis. Our humaning experience does not need to be toxic we can see each other and respect each other. That incudes not dismissing each other in any given situation. This means increasing our emotional intelligence. It means understanding physical proximity and how touch can be traumatizing - especially in public.
I just want to invite everyone to consider others a little more. Be kind a little more.
With more love,
Tiffany
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